Running an online business can be lonely, and sometimes you feel like you’re swimming in a sea of questions with nowhere to turn to get them answered.
Even worse?
Sometimes you don’t even know what your question is!
Maybe you feel stuck in your business, and you don’t know why. Or you know something’s wrong, but you can’t put your finger on it.
All you do know is that you need help!
The good news is, when you’re stuck in this place, there’s a surprisingly simple way to take charge and move forward.
Before I tell you what that is, heed this warning:
You will have to push past your comfort zone. But when you do, it will pay off big time, just like it did for my client Andrea.
Ready for a breakthrough?
Let’s start by diving into the quickest way to get unstuck when you don’t know what’s wrong.
Ask for help, even when you don’t know what your question is
If you find it difficult to ask for help, you’re not alone.
Knowing there’s a problem—and not knowing exactly what it is or how to ask a clear question—can deter a lot of people from asking for help and getting what they need.
The problem is, when you try to “figure it all out” before you ask for help, it just doesn’t work. You stay stuck.
So what should you do?
JUST START TALKING!
Verbally processing your thoughts and confusion will start to detangle the mental mess that’s keeping you stuck.
Don’t worry that you don’t know what to ask or what to say.
Don’t worry if you’re used to processing by thinking in your own head.
Just talk.
It will get you moving, and once you’re moving, you’re on track to getting unstuck.
Find a colleague—or your coach or mentor—and tell them what’s going on in a really straightforward way: “I’m stuck but I’m not sure what’s going on. I just need to talk and see what happens.” (I use this all the time when sorting through my challenges with business buddies!)
Which brings us to the next point… it matters who you talk to.
Click to TweetAsk for help, even when you don’t know what your question is.Don’t talk this out with just anyone
When you talk out your challenge, please don’t talk with just anyone.
Your spouse, friend, cousin, or sibling is likely NOT the best person to talk it out with—unless they’re running a successful business, are a solid coach, or have the skills to get out of their perspective and help you sort out yours.
Instead, you should ask someone whose business looks like the business you want or someone who has the skills to coach you without their own stuff getting in the way.
That’s exactly what Andrea did.
Here’s what happened:
Andrea’s story
Andrea, a Master Certified Mindset Coach, knew she had a challenge to work through when she arrived at the Make It Work Live retreat.
The problem? She didn’t know what her issue was exactly.
Here’s how Andrea describes her experience in her own words:
“My biggest challenge was asking for help, because I didn’t have the words to explain my issue and was afraid of looking like an idiot.
When Jenny opened up a hot seat to the participants, she looked directly at me to volunteer, but I looked away and said nothing.
Since I wasn’t sure how to verbalize what I needed, I literally waited until the very end of the event to ask for help with my situation.”
And it’s a good thing Andrea went for it even though she was nervous, because during our conversation, we hit on exactly what the issue was in her business.
Then, after a little more support from one of our Make It Work coaches, Andrea connected all the disjointed pieces in her mind and realized the solution was easier than she could have imagined.
The result speaks for itself:
“Simply being willing to have a conversation changed everything in my business.
Going to MIW Live made me feel heard and accepted and valued, and that has translated into how I think and feel about myself.
Now, things like asking for business, asking for interviews, and following up with people have become so much easier. That newfound comfort is definitely responsible for me signing up my most recent six-month client.”
All from just being willing to ask a question when she wasn’t even sure what the question is. Talk about powerful!
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If you can relate to Andrea’s story, it’s time to ask for help!
Start by finding a colleague or mentor who has succeeded in the way you want to succeed. Then, from a place of honesty and respect, ask them for help.
When things finally click, like they did for Andrea, you’ll reach a whole new level of confidence in your business—and your life.
You’ve got this.
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