You’re ready for another great day of saving the world, but you’ve got this nagging frustration that won’t leave you alone. You try to ignore it, but it’s still there. No matter what you do to distract yourself from it, it lingers.
How are you supposed to save the world if you’re quietly simmering inside?
What you’re doing wrong
Most of us were trained to be good boys and girls by buttoning up our emotions.
You’re not supposed to be angry, sad, or frustrated. You’re supposed to slap a smile on you face and keep your mouth shut if you don’t have anything nice to say.
The problem is that’s bullshit.
Denying your frustration doesn’t make it go away. Expressing it does.
How to do it right
Yes, you really should express your frustration.
No, you should not express your frustration to your coworker, your spouse, or the checker at the grocery story.
Karla McLaren, the author of The Language of Emotions, coined the phrase “conscious complaining.” It’s the process of venting your frustrations to the walls in your bedroom, the furniture in your home, or the trees in your yard.
It is the fastest way I know to move through frustration. Steam emanates from my ears and my face turns beet red.
Shortly after the venting begins, I’m done. When I complain uninhibitedly, I’m finished in under 3 minutes. I have nothing left to say. I feel complete.
For many women, speaking your mind in a non-blaming, honest way is not a practiced skill. The first time I tried this, I felt shy. I held back even though I was by myself!
Now when I notice I’m frustrated, I can complain (in private) and get it out in just a few minutes. It feels so good when it’s over!
The best part is I can focus when I’m done. I can return to my superhero duties.
When you’re having a bad day
Next time you have a rough day, whatever you’re feeling, don’t ignore it. Don’t slap a smile on your face if it doesn’t feel right.
In the privacy of your bedroom or wherever you feel safe, let the frustration out. Complain, yell, scream, stomp, and punch. Do what you need to do to get it out.
Not only will you get past it fast, you’ll feel better and return to your day with a clear head.
With a clear head, you can do anything, superhero, including saving the world.